"Perhaps the best thing we can do as individuals and parents is tell the kids around that marriage isn't the ultimate goal.. It isn't even an intermediate goal.. Or even a tiny goal.. Screw the TBZ ads and the whitening cream commercials.. Ignore Chetan Bhagat and Shaadi.com.. Marriage is downright unimportant in the overall course of things..
In India you don't need to be married to have a child legally.. Or even to inherit and pass on property.. Marriage is just a social custom where a bunch of old people shower rice on your head and believe they are giving you their permission (or, direction in some cases) to sleep with someone.. As you can imagine, it has little or no legal necessity or significance..
Life is compulsory.. Marriage is an optional extra.."
i came across this while idling about 'virtually' (quoting someone here, 'someone's recent favourite word to use, ranking after "pleasure" nowadays).. and i daresay, i myself couldn't have put it in any better terms..
of late, there have been instances where i have been subjected to badgering of some sorts by certain 'so-called' well wishers (i say 'so-called' because that's what they like to think of themselves as) and my ex (who, as it happens, is happily married by now, with all due credits coming my way, and so he wants to return the favour).. and i always have the very same thing to tell them--"whats all so important and urgency in getting married?"
i personally, am not against marriage.. and definitely not against people who choose to tread along that path.. but, saying that, i'm definitely against ALL those, who view marriage as the "be all and end all" of everything.. and funny part, neither of those people, have, till date, been able to give me the reasons for them to believe it as the "be all and end all".. so again, why propose when you can't dispose?
the 'author' here, has used really harsh views for certain 'people' and/or organisations.. well, i believe that it was plainly in the context of this whole 'marriage's (or the lack of it) issue.. and well, i beg to differ with his opinions.. for one, i cannot 'screw' TBZ.. i mean, that'll be sacrilege.. those people make some real jaw-dropping, eyes-popping, freaking awesome jewellery.. personal experience, and YES, i mean every word of it.. that being said, it'll be really unfair to associate TBZ ONLY with marriage.. c'mon.. a girl doesn't need a reason to flaunt her jewellery, does she (ever)?
and for the nation obsessed with "whitening creams" (which, much to my amusement, has managed to permeate even to the so-called-non-fussy-and-always-away-from-the-beauty-paraphernalia-hypocrite-bunch-of-MCPs and thereby giving rise to a new 'fashionable' word "metro-sexual")---that should be screwed.. funny how people are so skeptical in all fields of their life and so drastically opposite of it in the most evident feature.. people should realise that if the application of the so called 'whitening creams' really played a part in 'whitening', those very firms would have been out of business by now.. coz, everyone would be fair (or, 'white').. but yeah 'con' cares? (pun intended).
and the only reason why i admire a certain Chetan Bhagat, is solely because of the undisputed fact that he is a red-bricks' alumnus.. period.. and, so for that matter, whosoever that comes out of those red-bricks, i bow to thee.. no hesitation there..
so yes.. i, myself, am not really interested in being showered white rice on my head by some bunch of weird old people.. and of course, i'm not really seeking for "permission" either (if you get the drift here).. i can still get TBZ stuff, have a child, deal with the property nuisance( the IT dept makes sure of that, those bloody bloodsucking bloodhounds)..
and i choose to live the life.. while still alive..
and about the 'optional' extra, i choose to do without it..
and so i concur----"Life is compulsory.. Marriage is an optional extra.."
period.
In India you don't need to be married to have a child legally.. Or even to inherit and pass on property.. Marriage is just a social custom where a bunch of old people shower rice on your head and believe they are giving you their permission (or, direction in some cases) to sleep with someone.. As you can imagine, it has little or no legal necessity or significance..
Life is compulsory.. Marriage is an optional extra.."
i came across this while idling about 'virtually' (quoting someone here, 'someone's recent favourite word to use, ranking after "pleasure" nowadays).. and i daresay, i myself couldn't have put it in any better terms..
of late, there have been instances where i have been subjected to badgering of some sorts by certain 'so-called' well wishers (i say 'so-called' because that's what they like to think of themselves as) and my ex (who, as it happens, is happily married by now, with all due credits coming my way, and so he wants to return the favour).. and i always have the very same thing to tell them--"whats all so important and urgency in getting married?"
i personally, am not against marriage.. and definitely not against people who choose to tread along that path.. but, saying that, i'm definitely against ALL those, who view marriage as the "be all and end all" of everything.. and funny part, neither of those people, have, till date, been able to give me the reasons for them to believe it as the "be all and end all".. so again, why propose when you can't dispose?
the 'author' here, has used really harsh views for certain 'people' and/or organisations.. well, i believe that it was plainly in the context of this whole 'marriage's (or the lack of it) issue.. and well, i beg to differ with his opinions.. for one, i cannot 'screw' TBZ.. i mean, that'll be sacrilege.. those people make some real jaw-dropping, eyes-popping, freaking awesome jewellery.. personal experience, and YES, i mean every word of it.. that being said, it'll be really unfair to associate TBZ ONLY with marriage.. c'mon.. a girl doesn't need a reason to flaunt her jewellery, does she (ever)?
and for the nation obsessed with "whitening creams" (which, much to my amusement, has managed to permeate even to the so-called-non-fussy-and-always-away-from-the-beauty-paraphernalia-hypocrite-bunch-of-MCPs and thereby giving rise to a new 'fashionable' word "metro-sexual")---that should be screwed.. funny how people are so skeptical in all fields of their life and so drastically opposite of it in the most evident feature.. people should realise that if the application of the so called 'whitening creams' really played a part in 'whitening', those very firms would have been out of business by now.. coz, everyone would be fair (or, 'white').. but yeah 'con' cares? (pun intended).
and the only reason why i admire a certain Chetan Bhagat, is solely because of the undisputed fact that he is a red-bricks' alumnus.. period.. and, so for that matter, whosoever that comes out of those red-bricks, i bow to thee.. no hesitation there..
so yes.. i, myself, am not really interested in being showered white rice on my head by some bunch of weird old people.. and of course, i'm not really seeking for "permission" either (if you get the drift here).. i can still get TBZ stuff, have a child, deal with the property nuisance( the IT dept makes sure of that, those bloody bloodsucking bloodhounds)..
and i choose to live the life.. while still alive..
and about the 'optional' extra, i choose to do without it..
and so i concur----"Life is compulsory.. Marriage is an optional extra.."
period.
